My Latest Snag: Little Treats.
My favorite buys this week were my new calligraphy book and calligraphy pen set (have always wanted to learn — why not now?) and some new fitness gear. I shared all my favorite exercise finds yesterday but am especially excited about my new hot pink sports bra and mint green fitness top!
You’re Soooo Popular: Brights, Fitness + Food Storage.
The most popular items on le blog this week:
Not seen above but also very popular this week:
Weekend Musings: On Downtime.
I am still mulling over the fascinating and nuanced comments in response to my post on self-care, downtime, and mom guilt. One quote I came across this week that led me back down that thought trail:
I find this to be true, even in the sense that I often take a scheduled break during my day to run an errand, fold laundry, organize a corner of the house, take care of administrative business like doctor’s appointments and returns, etc., because I have learned that I need that “inactive” time to let things marinate. Sometimes my best writing happens when I’m driving to the dry cleaner. If I am running dry, the last place I should be is sitting at my desk in front of a blank page. This isn’t exactly what Austin Kleon is getting at, I don’t think. I think he means that people need time to “turn off” and “recharge” — not “be creative in the background,” which is more or less what I’m saying. Perhaps that’s nit-picking, though, because the point stands, whether or not you are in a creative field: it is healthful and generative to take breaks and, as he puts it, “do nothing.” The problem, I think, is that very few of us feel we can take time to “do nothing,” and for a number of reasons — inherited work ethic, frenzied and overscheduled days, guilt about taking time for ourselves as moms (specifically: guilt about leaning on other people to care for our children while we are taking time for ourselves), logistical complexity.
I shared the above quote on Instagram and one Magpie replied: “I am currently finishing my counseling degree. Counselors have an obligation to self-care — it’s actually in our code of ethics. It’s helped me to take time alone to be quiet with a little less guilt.”
Now, of course we are not all counselors working with others through difficult times, but I thought the fact that, as a profession, counselors have determined that it is productive, healthy, necessary to take time out for themselves was an encouraging endorsement of the practice more generally.
I don’t have any great answers, unfortunately, as to how to find the time and the childcare and the grace to give yourself “guilt-free downtime.” But perhaps, if you are able to elbow out some room for yourself, you can revisit some of the thoughts in this post or the comments in the previous post and remind yourself that it is OK to do nothing at all. You need time to sit around and do nothing.
+This popular tote is on sale!
+This pennant would be absolutely adorable for a little boy meeting his baby sibling for the first time, or for a newborn photo shoot with big brother in it.
+This simple LBD is SO chic.
+Granny-chic loafers to pair with fresh denim.
+This blouse is absolutely gorgeous — and under $100.
+I have a few of these hinge lid storage bins in my bathroom — great for things like facial cotton, razor blade refills, tampons, etc. I’m thinking these open-top bins would be a great compliment for organizing some of my shampoo/shaving cream/toothpaste etc backstock. (Costco life! Such a change from NYC, where I rarely had a back-up for anything — all hand to mouth!)
+I love a leopard moment. This would be great with booties and a little black cardigan right now.
+This pastel dress is gorgeoussss!
+Love this seagrass stool.
+Everyone needs a chambray top.
+Have been eyeing this tiered midi all season long. I love dresses like this at the moment. So easy to wear, loose-fitting, but pulled together. They work with boots or flats!
+Mini adores her new rainboots. They are on a tiny price break at the moment!
+This button-back sweater is fun in the cream/blue mix.
+Such a pretty color palette.