Weekend Vibes, Edition No. 159: Optimistic Resortwear + Feeling What You Feel.

My Latest Snag: Optimistic Resortwear for Micro + Mini.

It’s crossed my mind that we may not be out of the woods for a long while yet — this situation may extend into / impede our planned summer travel to the Hamptons and somewhere fantastic for our ten-year anniversary. Truly the smallest of inconveniences compared to the upheaval so many are experiencing, but a disappointment nonetheless: family adventures, celebrations, experiences deferred. And yet I still found myself optimistically ordering fun outfits for our (imagined) summer adventures. Won’t a field trip to the Bronx Zoo — hell, the nearby playground! — feel like a tremendous privilege when all of this is done?

THIS SUNSUIT, MONOGRAMMED (ON SALE!)

THIS TOILE BISHOP DRESS (PRECIOUS)

THIS EYELET TOP WITH THESE $4 LEMON LEGGINGS

WHITE DENIM FOR HILL TO PAIR WITH AN RL FLAG SWEATER

THIS SWEET PIMA DRESS (CURRENTLY 30% OFF PLUS FREE SHIPPING)

THIS SWEET FLUTTER-SLEEVED DRESS (CURRENTLY $12!)

You’re Sooooo Popular: A Happy Blouse.

The most popular items on the blog this past week:

+Happiest blouse.

+Coolest woven pendant for a chic breakfast nook (on sale!)

+Adore this monkey-print/toile shirtdress situation from Saloni. 20% off with code TNUCK!

+This gingham midi looks so breezy and comfortable. Pair with top knot and a Tom Collins.

+This lemon-print shirtdress just makes me happy. When life gives you lemons…

+These Natives in the blue or yellow floral print for little ones!

+A dreamy spring dress.

+Sweet spring top.

#Turbothot: More on Feeling What You Feel.

I wrote earlier this week about giving yourself permission to feel all 345 flavors of emotion that might be coursing through you in the face of current events. A few days later, I read an interview with David Kessler, an expert in grief, that was published in the Harvard Business Review that made the case that many of us are engaged in grief right now:

“We feel the world has changed, and it has. We know this is temporary, but it doesn’t feel that way, and we realize things will be different. Just as going to the airport is forever different from how it was before 9/11, things will change and this is the point at which they changed. The loss of normalcy; the fear of economic toll; the loss of connection. This is hitting us and we’re grieving. Collectively.”

Kessler goes on to say: “One unfortunate byproduct of the self-help movement is we’re the first generation to have feelings about our feelings. We tell ourselves things like, I feel sad, but I shouldn’t feel that; other people have it worse. We can — we should — stop at the first feeling. I feel sad. Let me go for five minutes to feel sad.”

Sharing to underline the point. And also, as the head notes to the interview astutely notes, sometimes it is therapeutic to simply name what you feel. “If we can name it, perhaps we can manage it.”

Hang in there friends…

And if you need a complete distraction, check out “Tiger King” on Netflix. Possibly the most intriguing and wild documentary I’ve ever seen, next to “Making a Murderer.” Or listen to Jessica Simpson’s audiobook — I am nearly done now (thanks to Tilly’s walks!) and have to say I absolutely love her voice and am enamored with her. She says important things! And she’s charming! Check it out.

And if all else falls — Nancy Meyers movies, pls and thank you.

Post-Scripts: A Great New Book for Little Ones.

+This is a fantastic book that mini and I discovered while attending Books of Wonder’s free story time a few weeks ago. It’s a sweet story about balancing adventure with a love of home — with tons of references to New York landmarks thrown in. (More children’s books I love here.)

+Such a fun top (under $75).

+Swooning over these luxe handbags.

+Love the shape of this dress in Maison Me’s newest print!

+This striped maxi is 40% off and reminds me of a watermelon. Would love to wear this to a backyard BBQ…OR, an indoor one.

+If you order soon, these should arrive just under the buzzer for Easter. How adorable?!

+This $11 dress has such a Sleeper-for-little-ones vibe to it. Sweet!

+Fun swim trunks.

+In love with this Carolina K dress. (25% off, plus a portion of proceeds go to No Kid Hungry.)

+Smitten with everything from Thierry Coulson this season, but especially this midi, this skirt, and this maxi.

+Chic dining bench at a great price.

3 Comments

  1. I love your turbothot today — I think Kessler hits the nail right on the head. It does feel like a period of grief or bereavement. Trying to give myself space to feel all the feelings that come along with extended self-isolation! Sigh …

    xx

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