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Toooo much shopping this week, including my splurges at J. Crew (P.S. — this came and I AM OBSESSED — so flattering!), but I made the decision to go with this striped one-piece from Solid and Striped over the solid red (P.S. — both are on sale, and more of my favorite sale finds here), but it was a close decision. FYI: Taylor Swift, Gigi Hadid, and Cara Delevigne are all wearing Solid + Striped suits in the pic above.
Speaking of sales and swimwear, if you’re as obsessed with the high-end bathing suit line Marysia as I am, you mayyyy need to take a look at all of these Marysia suits on sale! The much-loved Antibes bikini is on sale for 30% off in some great colors. (I own it in white!)
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+These bow-topped sandals ($125) are still ultra popular for the second week running. The cutest staple for summer!
+These fringed statement sandals (on sale for $77).
+Chic blush/neutral eyelet blouse (on sale for $69).
I found this post on gender roles when it comes to parenting and housework really…provocative. And I use that word preciously, carefully — it was provocative in the sense that it provoked multiple reactions from me, many of which were on the head shaking rather than head nodding side of the spectrum.
In no random order, it elicited the following:
+a feeling of alienation from the sentiments canvassed in the post, because Mr. Magpie is very much not like the man portrayed here. Mr. Magpie hates when I call him this, but I find him to be the truest feminist there ever was. He is the type of man who makes no assumptions about who should do what in the home or in the business world.
+a deep connection to the “mental load” phenomenon described here. Oh man oh man oh man is it true that I set out to do one thing in the house and somehow find myself an hour later still engaged in housework, having decided to not only throw a load of laundry into the wash, but also stitch a few buttons onto several articles of clothing, and then steam said clothing, and then make a mental note to order more hangers, and so on and so on until a whole afternoon has gone by engaged in such housework and I have no idea how.
+an interrogation as to whether the “mental load” is truly a gendered phenomenon–my father being a prime example of someone who must bear an enormous mental load. He is super organized about keeping his household running, and he runs it like a well-oiled machine (and he owns two houses and is father to five children and grandfather to four–soon to be six grandchildren!). I feel as though he’s always repairing something, scheduling some sort of technician, researching some new home purchase, etc. When I discussed this article with Mr. Magpie, he was admittedly indignant, saying: “but there’s a whole class of chores that women tend not to add to their lists, like cleaning the gutters and mowing lawns and replacing light bulbs, and I stay on top of those.” Just so with my dad.
+a sigh at the…defensiveness? permeating the entire post, and, indeed, the entire discourse surrounding parenting and the new roles we assume and new identities we form as we become parents. I want to choose my words carefully when I talk about this, so I’ll need to defer a full exploration until later, but suffice to say I think we’d all do one another a great service by espousing the old Amy Poehler party line: “GOOD FOR YOU, NOT FOR ME.” I read far too many thought pieces and blog posts and Instagram captions that come off as defensive about the choices we’ve made as parents, and I understand why–there are a lot of naysayers and opinionated know-nothings shouting in your ear, making you second guess yourself all the time when it comes to raising children and the decisions around careers, house life, chores, etc. that by necessity encircle it. But my personal goal is to repeat the “Good for you, not for me” mantra whenever I feel myself tiptoe-ing towards defensiveness. Because, really, who knows what’s best for you and your family better than you do?
I’m curious to hear your thoughts, Magpies!
+Easy throw-and-go tunic dress ($36) — can’t be the price! Perfect for a beach trip.
+LOVE this monogrammable clutch ($135).
+This is just the kind of breezy blouse that will get a TON of mileage ($128). I love it in all the colors, but especially easy-going white.